The Differences Between Self-Care and Self-Love And Why You Need Both


What is self-care? 

Self-care is the act of taking care of yourself mentally and physically. It’s a way to make sure that you’re making time for yourself to feel at peace. Self-care could include journaling, meditating, stretching, painting, and drawing, etc.

On the weekends, to make up for the self-depletion we often put on ourselves Monday-Friday, we might implement even more self-care strategies in an attempt to make up for draining our energy.

We might include baths, massage and chiropractic appointments, hair-cuts, colorings, pedicures, manicures, waxing, facials, body scrubs, astrology readings, yoga class, etc.  It could also be reading an article or listening to a podcast that makes you happy or doing the dishes and vacuuming because you know it will make you feel more relaxed the next morning.

Self-care is essential, and having the awareness that you need to take care of yourself to be the best YOU  is a beautiful thing! You need to take time for yourself to grow and evolve.

Self-care allows you to use your favorite tools to maintain a sacred relationship with yourself rather than being hard on yourself all the time over the little things that always come up in our day to day lives.

We all know how disheartening and disappointing it can feel when we’ve worked non-stop all day and had no time with ourselves other than showering and hopping into bed. Practicing self-care helps you refocus your brain, just as meditation would.

Self-care has been a hot topic lately!

Many of us are working two, three, or maybe even four jobs plus making ends meet. Also, we are trying to allow space for our passions, including spending quality time with our kids and trying to find space for our friends and family members too, but we need to make sure we are taking the time to care for ourselves.

Self-care is essential to feeling renewed, and it’s what can get you through your daily stress and anxiety. Wake up and stretch, drink lots of water, journal, meditate, and read. Before bed, put on a hydrating face mask, read, do some deep breathing, and journal about your day. Now, those are some excellent self-care habits and routines that can genuinely serve us!

What is self-love?

Self-love is about cultivating gratitude and acceptance toward yourself, physically and emotionally. Practicing self-love can be talking kindly to yourself, having compassion always, throwing away your scale, and letting go of the comparison mindset.

Start slow here, and don’t seek perfection. You will know you are doing better when you simply have the awareness and start paying closer attention to how you treat yourself, speak to yourself and judge yourself. Self-love means loving you unapologetically, whereas self-care is more about taking the time to feel good in your skin and body.

Self-love is about paying attention to your intuition and trusting yourself enough to taking action on it. Self-love is being ok with where you are now. Self-love is knowing that all the answers we seek are within us. Self-love is taking some time every single day to exist quietly with yourself.

Self-love is gentle discipline and slowing down; it’s about deeply connecting to yourself and others while having clear boundaries.

Self-love is listening to your body’s needs as well as finding your voice and using it. Self-love is the revelation of your authentic self as a divine spiritual being and awareness that you are here for a reason.

Self-love is following your joy. It is about knowing you are guided and protected and that all of life is for learning.

Self-love believes in yourself. Self-love is standing in your truth when everyone else may be telling you that you’re crazy. Self-love is listening to your feelings with an attitude of caring acceptance and compassion for yourself.

Self-love is about shifting your mindset and belief systems as you expand along your journey, and this can only happen through the unfolding and discovery of self.

For your consideration, we invite you to begin self-love today. Go to a mirror. Take a long deep look into your own eyes. Say out loud, “I love you,” and know that everything will be okay.

In conclusion, while self-care and self-love are different, they’re both crucial to leading a healthy, balanced, and fulfilled lifestyle. Self-love includes self-care, but self-care typically only addresses the physical. Self-love is about the inclusion of the whole person – the mind, body, and spirit.

One size doesn’t fit all when it comes to self-care and self-love. What works for someone else may not work for you. It’s about finding what brings you some joy and fills your cup. Maybe it’s some stretching in between work calls, making a cup of tea, saying some “I am” affirmations, jotting down a to-do list to keep you focused, or a quick call with a loved one. It is up to you, but don’t overwhelm yourself thinking about it and then not doing anything at all. Just take it slow and do at least one thing tomorrow that is just for you, working your way to more and more.

What’s so essential to remember about self-care is that you spend time discovering what makes you happy or makes your day just a little bit better. It’s not a cure-all for depression or anxiety, but it’s something to add to your routine to reduce stress and slow down your life.

Self-love, however, is a way that you can achieve more profound confidence and self-acceptance. It’s how you feel better about yourself and embrace your flaws. It’s about self-compassion. To achieve success in all areas of our life, we must start with loving ourselves.

You may not have time for the self-care you desire every day, and that’s ok. 

What’s important is that you make efforts to incorporate these things into your daily life. When you start, you will see how good you feel after devoting some time to yourself, and you will want to do it more. The repetition creates the habit, and that is what you are going for. The new pattern leads to a real lifestyle change that will last.

Self-love is something you can be working on at any time of the day because you don’t need to stop what you are doing to incorporate it. You can always catch yourself in negative self-talk and breathe your way back to your center, telling yourself that you are doing your best and that you are grateful for how far you’ve come and how hard you’ve worked. Anytime the negative self-talk voice creeps in, there is an opportunity for you to practice self-love.

Adding self-care and self-love practices to your daily routine will help you grow exponentially; your self-esteem and daily stress levels will thank you as they begin to shift. Your entire body (mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual) will feel this new way of being too.

Self-care and self-love aren’t about rewarding yourself; it’s about spending time with yourself and loving every minute of it. Reading this blog today is practicing some self-care and hopefully inspiring you to foster more self-love within too!